Kayte Christensen: Confessions of a T.V. Addict
PHOENIX, AZ, March 4, 2003 – Reality TV and Fox has crossed the line with the new show, “Married By America,” that started this week. Shoot, the line is a dot to them.
I don’t know who to criticize first: the producers and creators of the show, Fox for agreeing to air it, all the people that applied to let America pick their “spouse-to-be,” the people that applied to be the spouse to be, or the friends and family of the five who are going to sit back and let the viewers choose their husband or wife.
What is the world coming to when a union as sacred as marriage is thrown about like a dirty jock strap? There is no way that the friends and family can judge who is right for their son or daughter in such a minimal amount of time. Everyone’s parents have someone they think is perfect for their child already and would have them married right away if it were up to them. But that is the thing; it’s not up to them. The age old line, don’t judge a book by its cover, has completely been thrown out the window here.
All of these people are very successful, attractive, and quality people that seem to have things together. If a friend of mine would have come to me and asked me to take part in this whole process and help them find what should be their life-long mate, I would have suggested they call a suicide help line instead. That is what these people are agreeing to, marital suicide.
This whole thing goes back to the first show, “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire?” and nobody has figured out that the concept is setting you up for failure. At least the “Bachelor” and the “Bachelorette” give the people a chance to get to know each other, and they are not required to get married at the end of it. From that format I can see how there may be a chance that you find your soul mate, but even then, you are more likely to fail at that as well.
When the spouses-to-be had their final chance to “convince” America to vote for them, I felt like they were running for class president or head of the cheerleading squad. I may be young at 22 years old, but at least I know marriage is a sacred union that is meant to be taken seriously and entered into wholeheartedly if it is going to have a fair shot at working. Nowadays, even when people go through the traditional dating process, one in two marriages ends in divorce anyhow. Do these people really think they have a chance at entering into a loving, committed relationship with their soul mates, or is this something they did to get on TV and hopefully get a shot at making it in Hollywood? This is not make-believe people, this is reality. Wake up.
Until next time,